Have you ever been on the giving or receiving end of the silent treatment? Perhaps there was a disagreement or unfavorable decision that led you to frustration.
I stopped to share this with someone who is dealing with this behavior, STOP IT! It’s a form of emotional abuse. The silent treatment destroys communication and relationships. Each time this occurs, a wedge is being placed between you and the other person and can easily lead to the loss of friendships, relationships and even marriages.
The Word tells us in James 1:19 to be slow to anger.
“Understand [this], my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear [a ready listener], slow to speak, slow to take offense and to get angry.”
There are things that we should consider when imposing a silent treatment episode:
You leave the partner on the receiving end feeling worthless, unloved, hurt, confused, frustrated, angry, and unimportant.
No one wants to feel this way and when you do it, you put the friendship, relationship, marriage in Jeopardy and it becomes toxic & unhealthy.
Communication is a major component in all relationships. This can be applied to both our professional and personal lives. I’m focusing more so on the personal relationships in this blog.
I know what it feels like and I’m speaking from a space that involves healing.
When you are healed and healthy, you will learn how to communicate effectively with those who you come in contact with.
Handling disagreements require maturity. There is a proper way to discuss.
If things are heated consider the following:
🍵Communicate the need to discuss once things cool off.
🍵Always establish a day and time for said discussion and stick to that. Don’t put it off in hopes it will go away. It won’t. It will surface again.
🍵Have the discussion with cooled heads and clear minds.
🍵Come to a mutual conclusion. Note, I did not say you had to agree. You may never. But agree that each are equally ok with moving on after the discussion.
🍵Don’t bring it up again.
If we all take this mature approach, we will begin to see the silent treatments end and healthier and happier relationships and marriages.
Things don’t fix themselves. We have to be proactive in fixing what is broken.
Therapy is highly recommended. It’s a good way to work through this type of behavior with a neutral party.
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